I am a single mom with a 17 year old daughter. I brought her up on my own, since her father rejected us, when I was still 2 months pregnant because he was in love with someone else. As she was growing up we bonded very much and we were more like best friends. She knew every secret about me and I knew hers too, until one day I found her kissing with my boyfriend on my couch.
I loved this man and she knew it. I dated him for about 6 months until this abomination took place. When I saw this shocking and shameful act, I almost killed her with my own hands. I forgave her, but to my own regret, I realised later on that my own daughter was pregnant for my own boyfriend. Out of anger, I sent her away and my evil boyfriend ran away. I am living in darkness and I do not know how to move on. I wish to die.
Hello single mom. I am truly sorry for this shocking incident you encountered. It is so sad, but it is part of life. Firstly my advice to you is to please forgive your daughter and yourself too. You did a great job raising your daughter on your own but the question you have to ask yourself now is, ‘did I raise my daughter the right way?’
You have to truly go back and assess if your daughter was in line with our social morals and or to some extent did she grow up in Godly ways? If I got your story correct, you said you bonded like best friends and you shared every secret. A mother can show love and openness towards her child in so many ways without a child feeling too comfortable. It is not a good thing for a child not to have that respect with a little fear towards a parent.
You were not supposed to share sensitive secrets, which I believe you did because it made your daughter think that she can do whatever she deem necessary. She judged you for those things. Being best buddies made her realise so many weaknesses on you and it also made her feel so much comfortable to the extent that she thought you can even share boyfriends.
The greatest teacher in a child’s life is the parent, especially the mother. What has happened has happened but my advice to you is that you call your daughter, talk to her and ask each other for forgiveness. Get back together again and start afresh before she makes another big mistake. Death is not an option , life has so much to offer.